What is empathy? Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person. Like trust, building empathy takes time. It requires a willingness to sit, listen, and respond (appropriately) to students in both their highs and their lows. Practicing empathy levels the playing field of our conversations and communicates that we really do care for our students. Here are three ways you can build empathy in your mentoring relationship:
- Be sensitive…listen to what your student is saying, look at what they are communicating through their body language, and then be sensitive to what you see and hear.
- Be proactive…when you take the time to really get to know your student (through truly listening to them and seeing them), you can be a proactive mentor rather than a reactive one. A proactive mentor looks for ways to consistently encourage, empower, and help students rather than simply reacting to whatever high or low they are experiencing.
- Be caring…when students see that you care about them, you are giving them the gift of hope. You are communicating to them that they matter. And, that’s a great way to build empathy into your mentoring relationship.
Written by Jason, BTO Mentor
Nancy provides the critical backbone of labor, coordination and communication for Partners for Schools. She understands the heart beat and passion of our school leaders and teachers. “After raising our 4 kids, I know it just does not stop there. It really takes many individuals and a community to support kids, families and schools, and I love connecting the critical dots. Every child can benefit from a caring adult mentor”